When my husband and I found out we were pregnant, we had no idea what was in store for us. We were all excited for our first scan... When the nurse did the scan a second time, I asked her very casually why. And she said, "Because you have two." I couldn’t get my head around what she had just said. Two!
There were screams of joy, excitement and nervousness in the room. My husband and I walked out of the clinic not knowing how to feel. I immediately called my mum to tell her, but the words would not come out of my mouth. I was crying out of the nervousness of not knowing how we would manage twins.
Twin pregnancies are always considered high risk, but having said that, everybody’s pregnancies are different. With twins you just need to be a little more alert as twins often come earlier than their due date. Other than that, I was good throughout the pregnancy and, yes, towards the end, it got a little heavy. Certain movements were difficult, like waking up at night to go to the bathroom. I had to wake up my husband to pull me out of the bed. It was more about mental preparation for us than anything else.
The first most challenging part of having twins was breastfeeding both the boys. We overcame this by starting them on formula milk along with breastfeeding right from the start as it was really hard to keep them both full. Right now, my biggest challenge is giving them both equal attention. I try to overcome this by having individual one-on-one time with them and this seems to be working.
Double the love
It’s double the love and affection all the time! I just love how they always have each other and I rarely have to worry about playdates. I see sometimes single child mothers having children that need 24/7 attention because they are bored. With our twins, they keep each other company through thick and thin.
Get good advice
First thing I would say to mums expecting twins is, "Do not take unsolicited advice from the Internet". The only person I would ask questions of was my doctor – Dr Elsa, from New Concept Clinic. I highly recommend her... she is one of the best gynae’s I know.
Keep them on the same feeding and sleep schedule. So, even if only one wakes up to feed, wake the other one up too so their schedules will be in sync over time. I know it may seem mean at first, but will keep you sane in the long run.
Some of the items I recommend are: a twin feeding pillow; a maternity support belt; a humidifier; and a bottle warmer. The list can go on but these are some of my favorites that you can easily order online from Amazon or Babyshop.
Don’t feel shy to ask for help, whether it’s from your spouse or family. Don’t try to do everything by yourself and get family involved from the start, so that it doesn’t get too overwhelming
Chances are your twins will be teething or falling sick at the same time most of the time, so you just have to stay tough and ride the storm. Now that my boys are four, they don’t fall sick as often and it has gotten a lot easier.