YES

Earth Mother, 36, has two children aged four and six, who are both nursing at the same time

Firstly, breast milk is infinitely better for my children than anything I can buy at the shops, or make at home. It reduces their risk of obesity, allergies, cot death, infections and, later in life, cancers, multiple sclerosis and more – researchers in Sweden are citing it as a cure for cancer. Secondly, it is good for me. Not only does it reduce my risk of breast and ovarian cancers and osteoporosis, but it burns more calories every day than a 5km run and is absolutely free.

While it is now UAE law that a child has a right to be breastfed for the first two years of life, why should I stop nursing my children when they turn two? According to Meredith Small, professor of anthropology and author of Our Babies, Ourselves, for 99 per cent of mankind’s existence, breast milk was the primary (or sole) form of food for the first two years of a child’s life and continued as a supplement for many years after. Additionally, many non-Western cultures still advocate breastfeeding past two – the only reason we stopped is because it became socially taboo.

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Clinical psychologist Dr Deema Lana Sihweil, is neither for nor against breastfeeding past the age of two, but is “pro choice”. She believes most of the stigma associated with feeding past the baby stage is because of the sexual image of breasts. She says, “The breast is a sexualised object. For years, it has symbolised everything but its biological function. Social stigmas are based on this unfortunate trend and this needs to be discouraged. Doctors, psychologists and anthropologists know that healthy behaviours around breastfeeding for the first several years of life (up to four years in most studies) is proven to be beneficial in the long run.”

In my opinion, the question is not why I do it, the question is why don’t you? Most parents bend over backwards to do right by their children – vitamins, inoculations, good schools, educational entertainment, organic food – and yet they turn their back on the easiest, oldest, cheapest, most natural and best form of nutrition out there.

Parents stop breastfeeding only to start filling their kids up on formula and cow’s milk. Where’s the logic in that? It’s like banning your kids from drinking water so they will start liking fizzy drinks. It doesn’t make sense. As for emotional and psychological health, while I am not sure I condone teenagers and young adults turning to their mothers for a suckle in times of distress (this does happen according to Ann Sinnott, author of Breastfeeding Older Children), for school-age children, it’s thought to boost confidence, overall happiness and test scores. And I think I am closer to my children because of it. What’s not to like?

To people who think it is sexual, I say our breasts evolved for one function – to feed our children. The fact that they are seen as sexual is not my children’s fault, and I won’t jeaopardise their health because of it. When I see parents loading their children up on junk food and sweets, I wonder why it’s these very same parents who judge me for nursing my six-year-old. What I do is totally natural and, until recently, used to be normal. Just because you care what society thinks of you, it doesn’t mean I have to. After all, it’s my body, my children, my life. You do it your way, I’ll do it mine. I sleep soundly at night knowing I’ve done the best I can that day for my kids. Can you say the same?

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NO

Practical Mother, 32, has two children aged seven and 11, who she breastfed for a year each

There are many unwritten laws when it comes to parenting that rely on common sense and the peer pressure of society to keep them in check. Though bringing up baby is not an exact science, there are common guidelines that have become a ‘norm’ for proper parenting. The recommendation rather than regulation on breastfeeding is that after two years of nipple nourishment, it’s time to move on to the bottle. Yes, breast may be best for baby (even though I didn’t enjoy the suckling experience, I nursed both my babies for a year each for nutritional reasons) but by the time your toddler is two (and has teeth) in my opinion, for my own situation, it was time to withdraw.

From a health perspective, the World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding with “appropriate complementary foods for up to two years or beyond”. And there’s the grey area – how far ‘beyond’ are some women willing to go? Four? Five? Six? I once met a woman who still breastfed her six-year-old son (I’ll be honest, I was a bit repulsed by it), and there are reports, as recorded in Ann Sinnott’s ode to the benefits of extended breastfeeding (Breastfeeding Older Children), of women still suckling sprogs aged seven, eight and nine.

But why would this be good for the kids? From what I’ve unearthed, there seems to be no clear benefits for the child (there’s little research on the nutritional benefits after the age of two) and if they’re still glugging breast milk, they’re missing out on real food, solid food. But it’s the psychological part of this that disturbs me most. Surely, once a child can walk across a room and ask for it, it’s time to put them away for good? “It is certainly recognised within the psychology professions that breastfeeding your child has positive long-lasting benefits,” says Dr Amy Bailey, clinical psychologist at KidsFIRST Medical Centre.

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“However, beyond the age of two our parenting task changes to one in which we need to help our child learn to develop independence.” She goes on to explain how developmental psychologist Eric Erikson asserts that the main focus of development between the ages of two and four is the development of autonomy and that, “breastfeeding beyond two may interfere with or delay this, creating a needy child who struggles with interacting independently.” I couldn’t agree more. Not only is there something ‘weird’ about an older child being breastfed, but also I fear for the long-term effects of what I purely see as smother mothering.

As a mother of two, I can appreciate how hard it is to ‘let go’, and breastfeeding is the first of those hurdles we have to tackle. But that is our role as ‘good parents’ to relinquish our responsibilities and let our kids develop into fully functioning, emotionally sound adults, rather than holding on to them for our own emotional benefits, which I personally believe extended breastfeeding, like that of co-sleeping (allowing your child to sleep in your bed) is all about.

“Though deciding when to stop breastfeeding is a personal choice, we need to think carefully about whose need it is we are fulfilling. Ultimately the best decision is the one in the child’s best interests. Are we putting our child at risk of being socially rejected, for example?” asks Dr Bailey.

Personally, I think we are. In fact, I would go as far as to say that a mum who breastfeeds beyond the norm needs some help in letting go and moving on to be the supportive mother she should be.

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