Megan Kelly

American mother of two – Fiona, age four, and Eliza, 14 months – works in marketing for Urban Energy Fitness 

What’s the best thing about having more than one child?
When we were waiting for Eliza, I was really worried how we would love another baby as much as we love Fiona. But the surprise for me was how much we fell in love with Fiona again – watching her become a big sister and watching them together.

What’s the hardest thing about having more than one child?
Balancing the schedule, it’s like a puzzle, and when one thing moves, everything shifts.

What was the most challenging point you’ve had so far?
Travelling solo was really hard for the first time. I did it when Eliza was just three months old.

What’s the age gap between you two and how has that been for you? Do you like it?
Sometimes we talk about having a third and in those moments, I wish we had started sooner. But in other ways I think it’s great because I’ve lived a full life before becoming a mother and there are a lot of sacrifices that come with motherhood, which I think I was more ready to make in my 30s.

Chee Smith

British freelance fashion stylist Chee is mum to Rylie, age four, and Lyle Rose, almost two

What’s the best thing about having more than one child?
I never wanted Rylie to be an only child. I love the dynamic – I love that Lyla-Rose is always going to have a big brother. Obviously there’s a bit of friction sometimes, but they play together well and he’s protective of her, which is lovely.

What’s the hardest thing about having more than one?
Making sure that you give them both enough attention and enough of your time – making sure that they’re both happy and healthy and looked after. It was hard enough with one so with two it’s double the trouble.

What was the most challenging point you’ve had so far?
To be honest, they’ve both been easy babies and children, I’ve been extremely lucky and I’m very blessed. Obviously there’s a bit of jealousy and squabbling now and then, but nothing at all that’s been an issue. If anything, Lyla-Rose is more of a handful than her brother. If they’re both ill, that’s the only time I feel pulled and need to give them extra time and attention.

What’s the age gap between you two and how has that been for you? Do you like it?
I had my kids a little bit older, when I was 36. I wanted to have my kids later – me and my husband have travelled, career wise everything is on track. I think as long I’m young at heart that’s all that matters.

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Jessica Micallef

Half-British, half-Canadian, Jess is mum to two boys – three-year-old Noah and 18-month-old Arlo

What’s the best thing about having more than one child?
I think knowing that they’ve always got a best friend – that they’re going to grow up and always going to have someone that’s close to them. That they’ll be forever friends and they’ve always got a play mate. It’s just love times two.

What’s the hardest thing about having more than one?
Keeping track of everyone and making sure they’re playing nicely together. The two of them can gang up on me when I’m alone with them but for the most part it’s good.

What was the most challenging point you’ve had so far?
Probably now – since Arlo started walking. They can just go off together so making sure that they’re both safe is hard because they copy each other. So if Noah does something,Arlo will want to do the same and vice versa. So the hardest period is now – and the hard part is just making sure everyone’s safe.

What’s the age gap between you two and how has that been for you? Do you like it?
I’m 27, so I consider myself a young mum. So, I’ve got lots of energy to run after them and, yes, I’m their mother. But I also feel like their best friend. My parents had my brother and me young and it’s great now that they’ve got grandchildren while they’re still young and active too.

Grace Paras

Photographer Grace from Canada is mum to Ava, age two, and Hayden, age six months

What’s the best thing about having more than one child?
It’s that there’s constant change and there is never a dull moment. Also, when I see the kids interacting it melts my heart. Ava is such a good big sister – she’s so caring.

What’s the hardest thing about having more than one child?
Organisation – you need to be very organized. But even then, you can be as organized as you want, but, at the end of the day, these are two different personalities. So they’ll do what they want to do.

What was the most challenging point you’ve had so far?
It sounds unusual, but nothing yet. I guess when I’m breast feeding Hayden and Ava wants attention. And the attention needs to only be coming from me – that’s challenging.

What’s the age gap between you two and how has that been for you? Do you like it?
I was 34 when I had Ava and I thought ‘I should have done this earlier’. But it wasn’t a bad thing – I had a career and got to where I wanted to be. So I didn’t have to be worried about choosing between my career or my children and I can just focus now on raising my children. 

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Stock photo from Istock, portrait photography by Grace Paras